When you become a mother you feel incredibly responsible for fighting for your child’s best interests and protecting them from harm.
I have embarked on one of the biggest learning curves I think I’ll ever face…parenthood! Hudson and I began this adventure just over 2 months ago, and I couldn’t have asked for a better partner in crime, he is just amazing! Our learning curve has been steep, fuelled by his early health difficulties (but rest assured he’s travelling along well now!).
I admit, sitting on the other side of the fence as ‘mum’ and not clinician has been challenging at times, and I wanted to share some of my early lessons I’ve learnt along the way.
Embrace your inner lioness!
From the moment I held Hudson in my arms for the first time, I felt this intense primal need to protect my little man, much like a lioness would protect her cubs. I’ve discovered that this fierce protective instinct is invaluable and must be listened to. You know your child better than anyone else, trust your gut instinct and speak up if something doesn’t feel right. Remember that you are the strongest advocate for your child and their needs.
Build a team around you that you trust
As ‘chief’ of your tribe, it is imperative that you feel completely comfortable with the health professionals involved in your child’s care. Again, trust your gut feel, and if something doesn’t feel right don’t be afraid to seek alternative options.
I recently had a health professional tell me that I was better off “spending the day at a Spa and relaxing rather than spending money on a second opinion” when I had ongoing concerns about Hudson’s feeding. My gut was telling me that that something wasn’t right, and sure enough a second opinion revealed that he has a significant tongue tie which requires laser surgery, and had it not been repaired, he would likely experience difficulties eating solids and with his speech in the future! Fill your team with health professionals that are responsive to your concerns, no matter how great or small they may seem, and don’t be afraid to ask questions or seek a second opinion if your gut is telling you to do so.
Questions, Questions, Questions
When you’re juggling multiple health professionals and multiple concerns, you’re likely to have a mountain of questions. My Sprout families are well aware that I was a strong advocate for writing down questions before you go into any appointment…but now I need to add to this advice…write the answers down, or take a second pair of ears with you! As well! I found this has been particularly helpful after a sleep deprived night (or few!). Try to be as informed as possible, but at the same time avoid ‘Dr Google’- particularly at 2am! If you do feel the need to search for answers online, stick to websites that end with ‘.org’ or ‘.gov’, but most importantly remember to approach your child’s health professionals with any questions.
Hudson and I are lucky to now have an incredible team of health professionals whom we both adore, and who we feel have set us on the right path moving forward. I’ll look forward to updating you with tales of our adventures over the coming months!